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Power of our words

 

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I’ve wanted to be a mommy from an early age, as young as I can remember. Like many women, I would day dream about being pregnant. I would imagine what my children would look like, surely they would look just like me. NOPE:( I would dream of reading countless books to them, fixing their hair, playing softball out in the backyard, beach trips, and all things fun.  I wanted nothing more than to be a mommy and to experience that kind of love.

I never thought about if something went wrong. My children struggling in any way never crossed my mind. Everything was picture perfect.

My oldest daughter is 10 years old and has been very active since day 1.  I just wrote it off as being very outgoing and typical toddler behavior. Now that she is older and in school, we had started noticing issues with lack of focus, not following directions, comprehension and falling very behind in school with a couple dozen more issues. What we had been writing off as immature or being “quirky” was becoming something we had to address. We had to finally realize something is a little “off” and we are going to confront it and take some action. I’m not here to rattle off a bunch of symptoms only to spook you and then you get yourself on the internet and start reading articles and then diagnose your child with 3 different things as you climb into fetal position. I’m so guilty of that, OMG its happened too many times.

My conversations with my husband now daily involve the words, ADD, ADHD, learning disorder, dyslexic, medication, IEP, occupational therapy, neurological specialist, developmental specialist and that list goes on. So many labels being thrown around. I think for some, they are a godsend. For others, they are a stigmatizing opinion.  I go from heartbreak to gratitude that we somewhat know what is going on. I realize that for her to get the help she needs like therapy and special classes that we have to have an official label.

Those labels, though. Dangerous. That’s where I get stuck. Wanting to know, but then wanting to forget. Since starting this journey I am way more aware of my words.

“Focus on your schoolwork! You’re so easily distracted.”

“Your being very immature, you need to act your age”

“She’s my add daughter.”

“She’s the one who struggles”

“Why are you so difficult?”

#notproud 

Use a label long enough and our kids are going to start believing it and then owning it believing that’s how God made them, it’s who they are and it will always be that way.  Even if it’s true, its damaging and it certainly is not Gods way. Proverbs 18:21 says that our words either give life or death. I like all of you mommas want to speak life into my daughter and I will be honest and say it’s going to take effort to think before I just spew out nastiness, but talk to her like she is a daughter of a King, a child of God. As mommas we get the high calling of being the voice our kids hear the most while they are little. “Speaking life is naming out loud the things that you believe your child is becoming…even if they aren’t “there” yet.” And All the praise hands here, right? I wrote this down in church years ago from my Pastor. I LOVE IT!!!

Speaking life is full of love, grace and a confidence that God is doing an amazing great work in our child’s life. God has an amazing plan for my child and yours, one so much greater than we can even imagine. His plans are to prosper them and to give them hope and a future. I looked up “prosper” online and some other words for it are to thrive, prevail and triumph. YES, Lord!! Sounds like some serious victory talk, right?!  Mommas, it starts with us and our words. They will become what you tell them they will be. Even if it starts small, maybe today, just hold them and look at them in their eyes and speak life. 

The future is blessed for my child. — “For I know the plans I have for you, ” says the Lord, They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11

My child lives under a heavy anointing. -Isaiah 10:27

Teeth Jewelry Time!

Its true. I got me some teeth jewelry. This post is 2 months after getting my braces on. That day I would have said I was ready, this is gonna be a breeze, I don’t mind taking 53 minutes every.single.night to floss each.and.every.tooth, brushing my teeth after every bite of food that enters my mouth which means going to the bathroom to brush about 49 times a day. I had done my research and was ready. After all, it is the beginning of the improved me transformation before I turn 40.. I got 2 years to get it together!!! yiiiiiiiiikes!

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Here is me pre-braces with my cute husband:)

My teeth were not that bad. Just enough of a few crooked teeth that it was all I could see in every picture annnnd my husband is a photographer/filmmaker. You feeling me???????  So, I had to do this plus my teeth alignment is all jacked up, I have completely tore them up with all the grinding I apparently do at night and my back teeth are growing inward which would keep getting worse with age. I’ve always wanted braces, but always came up with excuses.

Now, here I am, 38 years young and I blend in with all the other 10 year olds with some teeth metal. Ladies, if your young and you need braces, just pull up your big girl panties and get it over with already.. For the love, please.

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Showed up to my ortho office which I love. Bunch of women, they are totally chill and fun, complimenting me on my hair color, my boots. We were instant besties. I laid there with that scary white plastic thing in my mouth for a HOUR trying to not lose my lunch and embarrass myself. Didn’t hurt at all and went quicker than I thought.. Its funny, they were all chatting about Gwen Stefani and Blake Shelton getting together (which I still find so odd) and they are asking me questions as if I can answer….??!?!?!?!?

My husband and oldest daughter went with me also. Why??? Because. 1. In case I passed out or away, I wanted them to be there for my last moments. For real, you never know what could happen. Remember, i’m a lifetime story.  2. My oldest is going to get her braces in the next year and I wanted her to see the process. She was so sweet, kept asking me if I’m okay and telling me to take deep breaths. I think she was pretending she was coaching me for labor:)) God love..

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Bless my heart.

Here I am!!!!! YA… I can’t even explain the feeling of your mouth being jammed pack with metal!!!! I wanted to rip them out immediately!!!!!!!!!!!!!! There was no pain or pressure that first day, but ohhhhh the feeling was so annoying. My upper lip wasn’t small to begin with. Thanks to my sperm donor out there somewhere for the full lips. For real, you deserve a sticker! I did get good lips. Anywayzzzzzzz, they got even bigger once the metal went on and my upper lip kept getting stuck on the braces.

This picture above, seriously that upper lip didn’t move for weeks.. I kept pulling it down myself. I was freaking out.. I was constantly in a state of looking awkward and apparently, surprised.. I can’t laugh right.. Its really hard to laugh aggressively like I do, but keep your mouth closed.. Like, try it.. right now…. seriously, its hard.. but I do and I look cray. My husband makes so much fun of me. Just so insecure of my metal mouth. I need to just get over it already!!!!!

 I complained to everybody that first 3-4 weeks who talked to me about anything.. They wanted to talk about our children, school, refugees, isis, church and I was like “but for real, I can’t even stand these braces.” I can’t even eat anything. I’m starving!!!!!!!!!!! Soup and smoothies!! Have you ever saw somebody with braces after they slurped a berry smoothie????????????????????? plain nasty. I apologize. 

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And today. 2 months of braces down. 1 year and 4 months left.

Notice a pattern in my pics. I can’t smile for real. I just can’t. If I even see a pic of me with my braces, ohhhh father. I can’t even think about it. It’ll be the year known as “the year nobody saw jadas teeth” and then I’ll do a big reveal!!!!

I go in for my 1st tightening in a few weeks, I know.. scared for my life. The thought has crossed my my mind to just ask the ortho if she can just take them off.. i’m fine with my crooked teeth….. I mean, really I just want some taffy. watermelon taffy. or cinnamon taffy.. Omg, i’m drooling. My husband so kindly as he chomps on some popcorn, taffy and steak reminds me that children 30 years younger than me do this all the time and they make it through.  Maybe, by the end of the year, I will join the ones who made it though. I can do this.. I got this.

xox

Jada