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“You’re the Devil”

Us 2015

Us 2015

 I have one brother, Derrick and we are 22 months apart. Well, he’s really only my half brother which is so weird to say and sad and lets just forget I ever brought it up.. cause now I want to cry about it.. Ok. So, important thing to remember here is he’s older:) He turned the big 40 today! I am still in my 30’s. Yeah for that!

 Childhood was a little, ummmmmm different. He was raised by my Grandpa and Grandma and I was all over the place. I stayed with them some, stayed with my mom some, spent a lot of nights at my aunts house and stayed anywhere else anybody would have me. I was so popular with my big ears, loud obnoxious voice and unending energy that everybody wanted me. Annnnd cue a lot of sarcasm there.:) Anyway, it is what it is and we survived. We turned out and turned up…. JK. totally doesn’t make sense, but felt right to type it. So………

 I have absolutely admired and adored my brother since I can remember.  I never ever wanted to be apart from him. I mean, HELLO!!! I slept in his room so many times on his top bunk. And I’m not talking about as a 6 year old, but when I was like 15 years old!!!!!!!!!  He would probably not like that on social media, but oops… there it is:)  Remember the year that rapture was supposed to happen for the 3,294th time??? I think it was in 1988.. So I would have been 11 years old. I WAS TERRIFIED. People, I cried so much that day. Of course we had been made to watch those dumb rapture movies that week that have traumatized me for LIFE.. Anyway, I begged Derrick to let me sleep with him and I’m not talking top bunk this night!!!!  Ya, seriously if he would have let me slept with him on the bottom bunk, next to him, yes,  skin to skin, sharing the same blanket, HA..I would have jumped there in a second..He agreed to top bunk so there I was expecting to feel an earthquake at any minute,,, oh wait, that was another night where a big earthquake was predicted!!!!! oh I can’t keep track… At this point of the blog, if you feel like its gotten too awkward, I give you permission to stop reading. cause it does get a little bit more odd when I start talking about if we weren’t brother and sister, would he marry me.. I know… BIG issues!!! 

Anywaaaaaaay, Derrick made me feel safe, he kept me laughing all the time, he protected me when strange men at amusement parks tried to pick me up:) played the weirdest foot game with me which he probably doesn’t remember and would never admit to. I can’t forget all the times spent in the backyard playing cowboys and indians or cop and robber,, and ohhhh shall we talk about the time he committed assault and battery on me?????!!!!!! YEP.. He sure did, just calling it as I see it people.. He wanted to tie me up around the tree and I did’nt want to be tied to the tree, so he decides to throw his rifle at me, straight on the right side of my forehead, leaving me with a scar. Thx you so very much! Aww I remember that day well, Grandma came running out with her good ole rubber house shoe:) sat me on the couch with a rag to soak up all the blood. and while laying there in pain, I heard my brother get the worst spanking of his life!!!!!!!!!! It was awesome!!!!! So I layed there and just smiled:)))

Here comes another awkward moment. I once asked him, “Derrick, if I was’nt your sister, would u want to marry me?????” ” cause I would totally would want to marry you”…. ?????????? Is that wrong????? 🙂 When we were in college together, that 1 whole year I did:) he was dating another girl. (not his wife now) I LOOOOVE HER:) but another girl that isn’t on social media. If she is, I apologize:) but I with a few other girls were really bothered by this relationship my brother was having cause I felt my brother was too good for her. Not in a mean way, but well.. yeah I guess it was mean.. I didn’t like the way she treated him, blah blah, blah so me and another girl decide to fast!!!!!!! hahahah and pray they would break up… Who does that??!?!!?!?!? Gives up food to pray for her brother to break up with a girlfriend. 1. I think i lasted 48 minutes and 2. I think I really just didn’t want him dating anybody. It meant there was another woman in his life and not just me anymore. :(( Whew this is getting deep. God bless my heart. 

  I am so overwhelmed with emotions when I think of my brother and our life together as 2 kids who did’nt have the whole mom and dad thing going for us. My brother without knowing absolutely filled the many empty parts in my heart in so many ways. He’s so much more than a brother to me. Besides my husband of course, I can with all my heart say he is my best friend, he’s that “no matter what” person. No matter what happens, no matter what I’ve done, no matter what is done, no matter how unfair and ugly things are he never sways, He is always strong and confident, encouraging, supportive, understanding, compassionate, accepting and an incredible man of God-he is always there. There are too many miles between us now as we are raising our families and living our lives. If I could have one dream come true, it would be absolutely for us to be closer. Thank God for Facebook, instagram, email, FaceTime, snapchat, periscope, the PHONE, HELLO!!! 🙂

And now because we are sooo cute:)

I was 18 months old and he was 3. Cheeseball.. He is loving life!!

I was 18 months old and he was 3. Cheeseball.. He is loving life!!

yep, there HE is with HIS hand on MY cheek giving me lovin..  March 1979

yep, there HE is with HIS hand on MY cheek giving me lovin..  March 1979

Sept. 1979.. I was 20 months and Derrick was 3 and a half.. again he wanted to hold my hand:)) Now, that I'm look at all these pics, who was really obsessed with who???????????

Sept. 1979.. I was 20 months and Derrick was 3 and a half.. again he wanted to hold my hand:)) Now, that I’m look at all these pics, who was really obsessed with who???????????

 

me, Derrick, Janae and Blake with our Uncle Larry... This face is totally my brother's laugh still today!!

me, Derrick, Janae and Blake with our Uncle Larry… This face is totally my brother’s laugh still today!!

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Easter of 1982,, THAT FACE:).. still happens all the time!!

Easter of 1982,, THAT FACE:).. still happens all the time!!

 

and this next thing is probably one of the oddest things you’ll ever see!!!
 I don’t expect anybody else to think this is funny, but one of my best memories was seeing this skit with Derrick when we were young and we both thought it was soooooooo funny… and just laughed forever….and this was where we started saying “your the devil” This phrase has stuck with us until even today.. 
xox,
Jada